Feel the fear and do it anyway

I have ridden various forms of motorcycle for almost a decade now.

I have only had 1 accident and adding to the mix a part time job at a Scooter store and a full time job at a motorcycle store, my level of experience is above average.

However, there are still some elements of riding that triggers fear for me – one of which is taking my new Vespa GTV 300 on the motorway.

Vespa’s are not designed with speed in mind. Their body is about being nimble at low speeds. At high speeds on an open road the GTV can easily do the speeds required, it doesn’t hold to the road especially well. Any wind gust from passing vehicles or the weather has the GTV dancing all over the road.

Understandably, I do not find riding on motorways especially relaxing.

An opportunity arose for me to put the new GTV on the motorway for around an hour so I could visit a good friend. The night before butterflies emerged. I was fairly concerned that the windy weather was going to make the trip very challenging. This was also the first time I had hit the motorway with this particular Vespa. 

The line “Feel the fear and do it anyway” popped into my head and I tried to let the fear go while also praying to the weather gods that the wind would die down.

The weather gods came through. There was barely a breeze.

I hit the motorway tense and at times rather fearful as trucks flew past causing the Vespa to shudder.

I had set up small milestones in my mind. There was a service station about half way. As I rode past it I yelled out (in my helmet) a big WHOO HOO!

Then there was an overpass about 3/4’s of the way. Once I cleared the overpast I joyfully yelled out (again in my helmet) – I made it! Almost there!

Most of the trip I was telling myself “just relax, you are already doing it. You are fine. You are almost there” which would quell the fear bubbling away in my stomach.

Of course I made it there and back again and enjoyed a lovely afternoon sitting by the water with good coffee and great conversation.

But the experience was a reminder that sometimes you really just need to feel the fear and seriously do it anyway. Fear does not have to stop us from doing things and the sense of achievement you have afterwards is amazing!

And as a tip, try encouraging yourself, or as I did, setting up little milestones you can celebrate. For example, if you fear is time based maybe after the first day you can celebrate that time frame, then a week, a month and a year!

Or maybe you can celebrate the completion with some indulgence and pampering.

My MBA kicks off this coming weekend and as some of you know, I scheduled a trip to Bali for 1 week to celebrate the completion of my first term. No matter what happens during the first term I have Bali to look forward too at the end. It is hugely motivating!

Does something cause your stomach to go flip flop but inside you know you need to move forwards anyway?

C’mon and give it a go – Feel the fear, and do it anyway!

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Me (Sonya Madden) and a fellow scooter-chick Tish during a club ride, September 2012. Scooter chicks rule!

Overwhelm (full moon crazies!)

Ever have one of those days where you sit at your desk, one eye on your monitor, the other on the door as you secretly plot your escape?

You mind bounces from the idea of running away to putting sharp objects into a co-workers chair.

I had one of those days yesterday. It was energetically overwhelming. to say the least.

Part of me wants to chalk it up to “Full moon craziness” (full moon a few days ago in Australia), and the other part of me wanted to stand up in the middle of the office and scream very very loudly.

Of course professionally screaming may not be a wise move so I’ve put together 5 steps to get you through when presented with an equally challenging day.

1. “Now just one minute…”

Yep… just one. Take one little minute. Take one little minute to breath and let go. For me I even close my eyes, let out an exaggerated sigh, and feel a million times better. Just one minute.

2. Steer clear of the people who are triggering you.

For me that meant pretty much everyone else so I dug up some very consuming tasks, rolled up my sleeves and got on with them. Before I knew it hours had passed and I felt better because my time had been UBER productive.

3. Insure that when you leave the office, your work stays at work!

This may not be possible everyday, but on any days where it is all getting a bit too much and you are visualising a certain someone’s head exploding… well that is probably a day where you need to just have a night to yourself…. and TURN OFF YOUR PHONE! If you can’t do all night… try for 1 hour.

4. Take your lunch break – take it I say!

Go for a wander. Enjoy eating your sambo under a tree in the park. Read a book. Listen to your ipod. Takes some chill time right in the middle of the day and enjoy. You deserve it.

5. Let it go

Come the end of the day, there will be some things you cannot change – no matter how much you recycle the thoughts in your mind – these things you just need to let go. Take a long hot bath and shift your thinking to the nice things from your day to stop the negative thought process. How was your lunch break? Was someone especially helpful today? Do you have some great plans for the weekend? Keep clear of the “If only…” thoughts – they will not serve you.

Do you have some tried and true dealing with overwhelm tips? Please add them in the comments area if you are happy to share.